WHAT IS REVERSE HAREM?
Here at Why Choose? we define Reverse Harem as 1 woman and 3+ men (1 woman and 2 men is menage and is currently not included on this site). Most importantly, the FMC should never choose.
With so many books including MM and/or FF in the harem, we do include these (and tag where we can). so long as the FMC is the heart of the story. There is of course a grey area – such as if the harem grows over time – but if the series contains books which are solely MF, MM, FF, menage, or single sex harems, these books are not included.
BUT YOUR SITE IS CALLED “WHY CHOOSE?” – WHAT ABOUT…?
Once upon a time, not so long ago, someone at Amazon decided that any book labelled as Reverse Harem was “promoting unhealthy relationships”. Any book with this in the title or the blurb was ultimately sent to the Amazon dungeon (aka the section of the site reserved exclusively for 18+ users) and it became impossible to either search for the books, or advertise the books. To get around this, authors started using alternative words and phrases, with the most popular being “why choose?”, because why choose just one guy? Over time, this has become an umbrella term for any book containing more than two partners.
“Why Choose?” isn’t just “Why Choose?”. We are “Why Choose? A Reverse Harem Book Tracker”.
And at the moment, that’s how it’s going to stay.
The goal for this site was to try to list all the reverse harem books available. While there are some that continue to evade us, we’re not doing too bad of a job at achieving this goal. Much as Serenity would like to extend the site to cover more under the Why Choose umbrella, it’s only something that we’ll do if we treat it like reverse harem – we try to capture all of them. We do not have the manpower to do this, and being brutally honest, I’m not sure we ever will.
UNDERSTANDING TAGS AND TRIGGER WARNINGS
We have over 20,000 books on Why Choose? but did you know that as we’ve been adding them, we’ve been trying to tag them to make your searching as easy as possible?
When adding books, we’ve relied on either guessing from the blurbs (where there are blurbs), or from when the admins or mods have read them. Which means, although we’ve tried, we may have either missed some or put the wrong tags on.
If you’ve read the book and you think there’s a tag missing, please do help us out by suggesting tags. We’ve got nearly 500 tags including triggers and kinks.
Trigger Warnings
At Why Choose? we know that some readers need Trigger Warnings. That’s why we give you two options (editable in your profile) to make searching safer for you. Hard Triggers mean that any book with something you cannot read will not show up on the site for you, provided you’re logged in. Soft Triggers are for those who can read books with certain triggers provided you’re in the right frame of mind. These will give you a warning bar at the top of the book page for you.
If you see a book which is missing a Trigger Warning, please do let us know. We want to make reading as enjoyable experience for everyone as possible.
MM and FF
While we understand that everyone has their preference when it comes to what they want to read, the MM and FF tags are not, nor will they ever be, included under Trigger Warnings or Kinks.
Should you wish to read or not read books with this content, you can choose to exclude these tags when using the search feature.
If this is something you disagree with, feel free to stop using the site.
Searching Tags
There are now two ways to search a tag. If you’re on a book page, you can click on the tag and it will show you all the books listed with that tag.
Alternatively, you can visit our amazing search page and filter down even more – putting in what you do and don’t want. Please note, this is an ‘AND’ search – you want vampires AND werewolves.
When it comes to searching by Triggers, these are not listed in the search option. We understand that there are occasionally topics that have overlap, such that some may find it a trigger and others may find it a kink. To keep it simple in these situations the books are tagged with both the “Trigger” and “Kink” tags. Kidnapping is one of these examples.
And of course, if you set your profile to exclude a certain trigger, you won’t have books with those Kinks appearing in your searches!
If you want to see our full list of tags, you can visit:
https://why-choose.com/extras/tags/
THE WHY CHOOSE? APP
It’s coming. This site was created because Serenity Ackles wanted an app. And Serenity Ackles will be getting an App!
Hold tight, because that’s coming soon!